Comments on: Who cares? http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/ An experiment. Mon, 31 Oct 2011 20:32:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: La BellaDonna http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/comment-page-1/#comment-355 La BellaDonna Thu, 17 May 2007 13:10:36 +0000 http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/#comment-355 "Someone to latch onto you and suck the life and energy and money out of you forever and ever amen." I had that for a quarter of a century. I called it a "marriage." It really wasn't, though, because if it were, there would have been a certain amount of taking care of <b>me</b> involved. See? Everybody gets a turn. But it didn't work out that way. So I left. I left because I was a "bitch." As opposed to leaving because I didn't want to spend the rest of my life caring for another, unimpaired adult human being, who didn't care if I lived or died. “Someone to latch onto you and suck the life and energy and money out of you forever and ever amen.”

I had that for a quarter of a century. I called it a “marriage.” It really wasn’t, though, because if it were, there would have been a certain amount of taking care of me involved. See? Everybody gets a turn.

But it didn’t work out that way. So I left. I left because I was a “bitch.” As opposed to leaving because I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life caring for another, unimpaired adult human being, who didn’t care if I lived or died.

]]> By: Kery http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/comment-page-1/#comment-352 Kery Thu, 17 May 2007 07:31:26 +0000 http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/#comment-352 Hmm, I would also think "it's unfair", and I still do at times, but when it happens, I try to kind of... downplay it, so to say. It's much pep-talk and pathetic self-convincing, but hey, if it works, why wouldn't I use it. I tell myself that it's okay if I can't have pizza or McDo or cookies, because they're not food I'm made to eat anyway, and my body isn't as dumb as I thought it was: it actually knows they're junk foods, and by gaining on weight, it tries to tell me that I should stop, before he has to resort to harsher means such as diabetes or coronary disease. So maybe it's not unfair. Maybe it's actually me being 'lucky'. Because if I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain one pound, I may very well unknowingly set myself for diseases later on. Yes, I know, it's dumb, and there are still days of whine in-between. But whatever works to trick a given mind... Hehe. Hmm, I would also think “it’s unfair”, and I still do at times, but when it happens, I try to kind of… downplay it, so to say. It’s much pep-talk and pathetic self-convincing, but hey, if it works, why wouldn’t I use it. I tell myself that it’s okay if I can’t have pizza or McDo or cookies, because they’re not food I’m made to eat anyway, and my body isn’t as dumb as I thought it was: it actually knows they’re junk foods, and by gaining on weight, it tries to tell me that I should stop, before he has to resort to harsher means such as diabetes or coronary disease. So maybe it’s not unfair. Maybe it’s actually me being ‘lucky’. Because if I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain one pound, I may very well unknowingly set myself for diseases later on.

Yes, I know, it’s dumb, and there are still days of whine in-between. But whatever works to trick a given mind… Hehe.

]]> By: Debbi http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/comment-page-1/#comment-342 Debbi Tue, 15 May 2007 20:57:32 +0000 http://www.latebloomerlog.com/2007/05/15/who-cares/#comment-342 Yeah, why shouldn't I be able to eat pizza? Real pizza with double meat and extra cheese, just the way I used to order it. Well, I guess that answers the question, right? I used to eat it and look where it got me. When I start thinking life isn't fair – and I think that a lot! – I try to look at life from other perspectives. It's not always either/or, black/white, pizza/salad – it's, maybe, veggie pizza with whole wheat crust, or salad topped with nut-crusted salmon. Either/or thinking sends me spiraling into the black hole of life's not fair. Every time. Yeah, why shouldn’t I be able to eat pizza? Real pizza with double meat and extra cheese, just the way I used to order it.

Well, I guess that answers the question, right? I used to eat it and look where it got me.

When I start thinking life isn’t fair – and I think that a lot! – I try to look at life from other perspectives. It’s not always either/or, black/white, pizza/salad – it’s, maybe, veggie pizza with whole wheat crust, or salad topped with nut-crusted salmon. Either/or thinking sends me spiraling into the black hole of life’s not fair. Every time.

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